Over the course of my engagement family and friends have treaded lightly around my last name. Would I keep my last name, hyphenate, or get rid of it to acquire my fiance’s last name? I still cannot pronounce my future hubbie’s last name correctly. I am glad that I have the freedom to be able to choose what to do with the whole last name situation although I never would have guessed that it would have felt so loaded with meaning for me.
Some thoughts:
1. I have decided that I cannot hyphenate the two names together. My name would be forever long as I already have two middle names.
2. If I give up my current last name I would be cutting off the last connection I have to my deceased father and to a family I never really got to know. Plus, changing my last name would be a huge pain in the ass.
3. Men have the option to change their last names though it would take one mighty search to find a man who doesn’t bawk at the idea. I can’t help but wonder if I take on this part of my fiancé what part of me will he take on?
I have actually already decided that I would change my last name even though I have some mixed feelings about it. Ultimately, I see changing my last name as an opportunity to add to my identity.
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